Societal changes over the past sixty years have resulted in a shift away from traditional gender roles, leading to uncertainty about what is considered appropriate behavior for men and women.
Women are becoming more assertive and competitive, while men are feeling uncertain about how to assert their masculinity.
These changes have resulted in a lack of balance in relationships and interactions, both professionally and personally. It’s a new world out there, and while it may seem like anything goes, it’s not always leading to contentment in relationships.
Why women became so male
Our society has undergone significant changes in recent times, and as a result, we see the evolution of the male woman and the female man. Over time, women have lost touch with the feminine aspect of their being and have overdeveloped their masculine aspect. This means that the masculine side has become dominant, leaving our society with large numbers of women who are predominantly male-oriented. So let’s take a look at what we got here.
New women archetypes in modern society
In her amazing book “Feminine Lost: Why Most Women Are Male” Jennifer Granger talks about four new female archetypes:
The Andro Woman archetype is a modern representation of a woman who prioritizes her masculine traits, often at the expense of her feminine traits, in order to assert dominance and assertiveness. She may present as a polished and professional woman but is ready to confront any obstacles that come her way. She can manifest as either a virtuous or villainous Andro, and understanding these variations can help in navigating interactions with this type of woman in daily life.
The Good Doer archetype is a woman who is comfortable switching between her feminine and masculine traits, but often leans towards her masculine traits in her drive to achieve and accomplish tasks, often for others and not for herself. This archetype is often driven by a desire to help others but can also lead to neglecting her own needs. This can lead to an imbalance in her life and she may not realize the danger until it is too late because of her busy schedule.
The Faux Feminine Woman archetype is a woman who desires power, but does not want to work to earn it. Instead, she seeks to find someone to take care of her and do her bidding. This archetype is resistant to change and is not motivated to work for what she wants, believing that she can attain it through manipulation or manipulation of others.
The Cougar archetype is an older woman who is on the lookout for a younger man to fulfill her desire for a vibrant and exciting relationship. She is often well-connected, well-dressed, and financially stable. She is often seen as a predator, preying on the vulnerability of younger men. This kind of relationship often ends in disappointment for both the Cougar and her younger partner. As we delve deeper into this archetype, we will explore the underlying motivations and inclinations of both the Cougar and the men who are captivated by her.
The current societal landscape presents a complex interplay of traditional gender roles and expectations. We see women asserting their masculinity in the workplace and men embracing their feminine traits. The result is confusion about what constitutes healthy male-female relationships and interactions. It’s understandable to question how we got to this point and how severe the issue is.
IT’S A JUNGLE OUT THERE, BUT YOU CAN FIND YOUR WAY
Men and women are inherently different, but this difference should not be used to justify inequality. Both sexes are equal in their own right and should be treated as such. The inequalities that exist in society are rooted in fear and control, rather than inherent differences between the sexes. Pretending to be like men or depicting them as villains only perpetuates these inequalities and widen the divide between genders. It is important for women to accept and embrace our own unique femininity and for society to recognize and respect the inherent equality of both sexes. This will lead to a more harmonious and equal society.
SO JUST HOW MASCULINE OR FEMININE ARE YOU? Quiz
Time for a bit of fun before we launch to be more feminine!
This quiz gives you an indication of the balance between your internal masculine and internal feminine aspects in your daily life. Great to say, that this quiz is for entertainment purposes only, and a comprehensive understanding of one’s archetype requires careful analysis by a trained professional.
Additionally, you may exhibit characteristics of multiple archetypes, and that’s okay.
By honestly answering the questionnaire, you will get a rough idea of the balance of masculine and inner feminine energy in your daily activities. Enjoy!
1. Do you take regular time for relaxation and reflection?
A. I find time every day to reflect.
B. I don’t have time for quiet reflection.
C. I make it a point to sit quietly at least once a week to relax and reflect on my life.
D. I don’t believe that any kind of meditation or reflection really helps.
2. You have just heard that a friend has become ill. How do you respond?
A. I leave it to the doctors—they know what’s best.
B. I immediately ask if there is anything I can do to help.
C. I call the friend in a couple of weeks to see if they’re okay and feeling better.
D. I offer to pick up the friend’s children from school and deliver a casserole for dinner.
3. You notice a colleague is being bullied at work; what would you do?
A. I do nothing and pretend I haven’t noticed. It won’t help to get involved.
B. I take the person aside and offer support, like taking them out to lunch.
C. I feel compassion for them but I leave them to handle the situation on their own.
D. I do not hesitate to speak up on their behalf when an opportunity arises.
4. You are out on a dinner date and the bill arrives. What do you do?
A. I pretend the bill hasn’t arrived and wait to see what the other person does about it.
B. I pick the bill up without hesitation and pay the full amount.
C. I’m ready to pay my portion of the meal but I wait for the other person to take the lead.
D. I pick the bill up and calculate the exact amount we each owe. I then ask my date for their portion.
5. You have spotted an attractive person living in your building. You find yourself interested in them. What do you do?
A. I watch them from afar but never make a move to interact with them.
B. I formulate a plan that allows me to bump into them repeatedly, to make them aware of me.
C. I wait for them to notice me. When they do, I smile warmly.
D. I walk up to them when the opportunity arises and introduce myself.
6. You have been asked out on a date. You like this person, but the person is slow to finalize the arrangements. What do you do?
A. I don’t do anything. I wait for them to call with the arrangements.
B. I call them within a short space of time to clarify the final arrangements.
C. I exercise patience. I don’t need to know what, where, and when. If they call too late and I’ve made other plans, they’ll have to organize another time for our date.
D. I call the person on the pretext of having to speak to them on another matter and then at the last moment ask what the details for the date are.
7. You have changed your hairstyle dramatically and suddenly you are the focus of your social group. When people give you compliments on your new look, how do you respond?
A. I receive compliments with warm satisfaction.
B. I say thank you but then immediately make an excuse, like “Oh, I just needed a change.”
C. I behave graciously toward anyone who delivers a compliment.
D. I feel embarrassed that my new hairstyle is causing such a stir.
8. Your partner tends to forget to do their chores around the house. What do you do?
A. I wait for them to find the time to do their share of the work.
B. I do their chores, my chores, and anything else that needs to be done around the house.
C. I leave the situation for a while and notice if they are preoccupied with other more important business. I then ask when I can expect them to do their chores.
D. I stay on top of it and nag them until they do what they said.
9. You find yourself being pursued by an unwanted admirer. What do you do?
A. I hide around corners whenever I see them coming.
B. I glare at them aggressively to frighten them off.
C. I give very clear verbal and nonverbal indications that I really have no interest in their advances.
D. I tell them firmly and without any hesitation that I’m not interested in them.
10. You are working too hard. You are fully aware that you’re becoming really run down and exhausted. What do you do?
A. I start to take time for myself every day, even if it’s only thirty minutes of solitude.
B. I set time aside and book a holiday as soon as possible.
C. I sign up for a yoga or meditation class.
D. I just keep going in the hope that I will eventually get on top of my commitments.
HOW TO SCORE YOUR QUIZ ANSWERS
Add up the number of times you answered A or C. This combined score is called your Female-Quotient.
Then add up the number of times you answered B and or D. This combined number represents your Masculine-Quotient.
If your F-Quotient is between 7 and 10, you tend to operate more from your feminine internal gender than your masculine. The higher this number, the higher your inner polarity is to the feminine; your natural instinct is to be primarily feminine in your reactions to daily life activities.
If your M-Quotient is between 7 and 10, you tend to operate more from your masculine internal gender than your inner feminine aspect. The higher your M-Quotient, the higher your inner polarity is to the masculine. In other words, your natural instinct is to be primarily masculine in your reactions to daily activities in your life.
If you scored 4, 5, or 6 in either quotient, it means you have also scored very similarly on the opposite quotient, indicating that you are relatively well-balanced with regard to your internal genders. In certain circumstances, you will favor your internal feminine side; in other cases, you will use your masculine aspect to deal with what life is presenting to you.
What does it mean to be feminine?
Being truly feminine means that you can be authentic in your feelings and how you convey them through your spoken words. Don’t shut yourself off from what your gut, or intuition, is telling you. It is coming from your feminine self.
Many male-oriented women have cut themselves off from their feelings.
It is understandable; we are under so much pressure in our work lives today.
We are constantly working toward deadlines, balancing the pressures of running a family with the responsibilities of a full-time job. The luxury to take a moment and check in with themselves to make sure they are flowing from their hearts isn’t always an option.
Too many male-oriented women just do not have the awareness or the time. When life was a little less harried we had time to contemplate, and contemplation is the key to becoming heart-centered. This is the ability to be compassionate, empathetic, and thoughtful; to be able to take others into account rather than solely focusing on our own self-centered needs and wants.
23 tips on how to be more feminine and soft in a relationship
- Communicate clearly and openly: Share your thoughts, feelings, and needs with your partner in a calm and honest way.
- Practice active listening: Show interest in your partner’s thoughts and feelings and listen attentively.
- Show appreciation and gratitude: Express your appreciation for your partner and the things they do for you.
- Be supportive: Offer your partner emotional support and encouragement.
- Show affection: Express your love and affection through physical touches, such as holding hands, hugging, and cuddling.
- Be patient: Take the time to understand your partner’s perspective and be patient with them.
- Show empathy: Try to understand your partner’s feelings and experiences, and respond with empathy and compassion.
- Be kind and considerate: Show your partner kindness and consideration in your words and actions.
- Be flexible: Be open to compromise and be willing to make adjustments in the relationship.
- Be honest: Be truthful and transparent in your communication with your partner.
- Show understanding: Try to understand your partner’s needs and priorities and be supportive of them.
- Show respect: Treat your partner with respect and dignity in all aspects of your relationship.
- Show trust: Build trust in your relationship by being reliable and dependable.
- Show commitment: Show your partner that you are committed to the relationship by being consistent and dependable.
- Show forgiveness: Practice forgiveness and let go of grudges and resentments.
- Show loyalty: Be loyal and faithful to your partner.
- Show understanding: Show your partner that you understand their feelings and experiences.
- Show interest in your partner: Show interest in your partner’s hobbies, interests, and passions.
- Show humor: Show your sense of humor and try to find humor in difficult situations.
- Show your vulnerability: Show your partner that you are open and honest about your feelings and vulnerabilities.
- Show your femininity: Show your partner that you are comfortable with your femininity and that you are comfortable expressing it.
- Show your interest: Show your interest in your partner’s well-being and in their happiness.
- Show your love: Show your partner that you love
Healthy feminine energy in your relationship
As you undergo a transformation, it’s important to be prepared for the changes that will occur in your life. Your shift in energy will affect your external world, and those around you may not understand or approve of your journey. They may try to discourage or bring you back to your old ways, but it’s important to stay true to yourself and listen to your inner guidance. As you become more self-aware and confident, some relationships may no longer align with your new self. But remember, you are in control of your own life and it’s important to let go of the need for validation from others. Trust in your own abilities and gracefully navigate through this shift, knowing that your feminine energy and vibration will always be with you and shape your interactions with the world.
A woman who is in touch with her healthy feminine energy and in balance with her internal masculine is at peace and open to receiving what she needs to maintain equilibrium. She is both a protected and a protector and will attract a partner whose energy is in harmony with hers. This harmonious relationship will have a positive impact on future generations. As the nurturers of society, women play a crucial role in maintaining balance by providing the wisdom of the feminine. The well-being of society is closely tied to the well-being of its women, and when women are empowered, society is more stable and peaceful. It is important for women to embrace their femininity for their own personal growth and well-being, as well as for the benefit of their children and society as a whole.